Saving relationships is a gift in which I take great pride and delight. Mars and Venus is a metaphor describing how men and women communicate differently and differ in all areas of their lives. Not only do men and women communicate differently, but they think, feel, perceive, react, respond, love, need and appreciate differently. They almost seem to be from different planets, speaking different languages and needing different nourishment. "Using these powerful Mars Venus techniques" has transformed my practice. I have not worked with a committed couple who have not shown improvement after marriage counseling, and many in "dramatic fashion".
But as the magic recedes and daily life takes over, it emerges that men continue to expect women to think and react like men, and women expect men to feel and behave
like women. Without a clear awareness of the differences, we do not take the time to understand and respect each other.
The expanded understanding of the differences between men and women helps resolve much of the frustration in dealing with and trying to understand the opposite sex. Misunderstanding can then be quickly dissipated or avoided. Incorrect expectations are easily corrected. When we remember that our partner is as different from us as someone from another planet, we can relax and cooperate with the differences instead of resisting or trying to change them.
The most frequently expressed complaint women have about men is that men don't listen, either a man completely ignores her when she speaks to her or he listens for a short time, assesses what is bothering her, and then proudly becomes Mr. Fix-it and offers a solution to make her feel better. He is confused when she doesn't appreciate his advice. No matter how many times men are told they are not listening, they don't understand and keep doing the same thing. She wants empathy, but he thinks she want solutions.
The most frequently expressed complaint men have about women is that women are trying to change them. When a woman loves a man she feels responsible to assist him in growing and tries to help him improve the way he does things. She forms a home-improvement committee, and he becomes her primary focus. No matter how much he resists her help, she persists, waiting for any opportunity to help him or tell him what to do. She thinks she's nurturing him, when he feels he's being controlled. Instead, he wants her acceptance.
The most important love needs for Venusians are to be cared for, understood, and respected. Martians want to be trusted, accepted, and appreciated. To feel better, Martians go to their caves and solve problems alone. To feel better, Venusians get together and openly talk about their problems. Many women have Martian qualities and many men have Venusion qualities.
Couples often come in to work on issues such as:
- - Infidelity/Affairs
In this day and age relationships are more confusing and difficult than ever. Using these powerful marriage counseling technique in a warm, caring, sensitive way I will help you navigate through your relationship issues. Contact me at 732-492-9132 for a free telephone consultation.
Mars & Venus Counseling Center
495 Iron Bridge Road, Suite 8
Freehold, NJ 07728